MY VIEW ON HEALINGHealing is growth. It starts where vitality meets presence.Life naturally moves towards growth. But when much of our energy remains tied up in survival, protection or adaptation, these responses can become habitual patterns. We may find ourselves repeating the same reactions rather than responding to what life is asking of us now.
For me, healing is not about creating a life in which nothing hurts, nothing disturbs us and we always feel good. Wholeness isn’t feeling good all the time. It’s making room for every feeling.
And healing is not only about eliminating pain. Of course, when something hurts, we want relief — and reducing pain, restoring movement and recovering function may be very real goals of our work.
But pain can also be information. Physical or emotional, it may invite us to pay attention to something that needs care, support, change, expression or understanding.
Listening does not mean remaining passive or romanticising suffering. Acceptance is not resignation. It means meeting what is already here without immediately fighting or overriding it, so that we can see more clearly what is happening and respond appropriately rather than react from our habitual patterns.
And acceptance does not mean liking everything either. It means tasting life as it is. If something tastes bitter, it is not necessarily bad. Bitterness can be part of the taste, just as it is in coffee or dark chocolate.
Wholeness isn’t a perfect life. It’s making room for all of life. For me, it is not something we achieve once and keep forever. It is an ongoing process of integration, in which more of our experience can be met, included and lived.
And this is where curiosity becomes essential. Judgement tends to narrow our attention around what is wrong and what must be fixed. Curiosity opens it again.
It allows us to ask:
- What is happening?
- What is my body responding to?
- What needs my attention now?
- What would support a different response?
Curiosity opens the possibility of living rather than merely surviving.
Curiosity cures. What’s alive thrives.